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Community Conversation Has Begun!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:52:00 +0000

Thank you to the nearly 400 participants who attended “Religion and Homophobia: Spiritual Violence in our Community.” The evening was a great success! The LGBT Resource Center extends its thanks to our presenter Wayne Besen of “Truth Wins Out” as well as our amazing panel members.

Our Director, Dr. Milt Ford, will be attending Focus on the Family’s “Love Won Out” conference tomorrow in Grand Rapids.

Don’t forget the Grand Rapids chapter of the National Organization of Women will be hosting a protest to the “Love Won Out” conference tomorrow (Saturday) at noon, Calder Plaza, GR. Mayor George Heartwell will be speaking at that event.

SAVE THE DATE: Join us on September 21st as Sean Kosofsky, former Director of Policy for Triangle Foundation and current Executive Director of NARAL Pro-Choice North Carolina, will present “The Queer State of the Union” for our OnGoing LGBT Conference. For more information, visit our website.

To keep up on all the happenings at our center, join the “Grand Valley State University LGBT Resource Center” Facebook group.

Follow “gvsuLGBTcenter” on Twitter!

We thank you for your support and hope to see you at our future events!

The Impact of Spiritual Violence

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 14:46:00 +0000

Many factors have led to my becoming an advocate for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. One of the most devastating events was the disappearance of my beloved friend Liz.

In college I was involved in a nationally-known, campus-based Christian organization. I found this group provided some structure for my life as well as deep, loving friendships. One of those friendships was with Liz.

Liz and I were the same age. She was bubbly, fun, animated, caring, and a great sister to me. Liz was one of my best friends and I loved her.

One Friday night, I went to our weekly meeting and Liz wasn't there. I asked the leadership and was told Liz was sick. That week I tried to reach Liz by phone but was unsuccessful. The following Friday night, no Liz. Once again I asked and was told that Liz would not be returning to the group and that I was not to ask anymore questions. Needless to say, I went ballistic. The head female group leader took me upstairs to a secluded room and sat me down. She then proceeded to tell me that that Liz was no longer part of our group and then informed me that I was forbidden to try to contact Liz because . . .

Liz was "a homosexual."

Of course, I did not respond to this news nor the directive in the manner to which I had been instructed. I was enraged!

I searched for Liz in the limited non-Internet ways that were available to me at the time but she was gone. I was both heartbroken and incredulous. Was this not the same Liz we had loved? Her being a lesbian had zero impact on my feelings for or commitment to her. That revelation was barely a blip on the radar for me. I just wanted my friend to know that I was not a part of the horrifying message she was receiving. I never got a chance to tell her. I never saw or spoke to Liz again.

My heart continues to break for Liz as I wonder how that rejection and alienation impacted her life. I search for her online periodically. Being connected to the devastating spiritual violence that Liz experienced is unfinished business in my own life. When the dominant group in society demands assimilation from the minority group, they not only oppress their target but also diminish their own humanity. I felt diminished. I feel diminished. I am diminished.

On Thursday, June 11th, Grand Valley State University will host a forum to examine the impact of homophobia in faith communities. I hope you will join us and add your voice to this continuing conversation.

Religion & Homophobia: Spiritual Violence in our Community
Thursday, June 11, 2009 at 7 p.m.
GVSU downtown campus - Eberhard Center, Room 215

This event is sponsored by the Vice President for Inclusion and Equity, Dean of Students Office, LGBT Resource Center, Women's Center, Office of Multicultural Affairs, Allies & Advocates, LGBT Faculty and Staff Association, Department of Liberal Studies, and Department of Women and Gender Studies.

For more information, visit the LGBT Resource Center website. Also, follow us on Facebook: Our fan page is "Grand Valley State University LGBT Resource Center" and join the group "Religion & Homophobia: Spiritual Violence in our Community." You can track this event and others on Twitter by following "gvsulgbtcenter."

We hope to see you on Thursday, June 11th at this important event!

Speaking Truth to Power

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 18:30:00 +0000

Last week we blew the roof off the LGBT Resource Center!

On Monday we received a letter that was written by the American Family Association (AFA) to its local members. This letter stated that in conjunction with the launch of the website http://www.silencingchristians.com/, the AFA had produced an hour-long infomercial entitled "Speechless: Silencing Christians" decrying advances in equality for the gay community. The show was set to air that night -- Monday, February 9th -- at 7 p.m. on WOOD TV8.

The following were high points from the AFA letter informing its members of the content of "Speechless" and why they should tune in:

"The TV show will reveal the truth about the claim that homosexuals are born that way and cannot change; the negative impact on children resulting from schools promoting the gay lifestyle; protected minority status for homosexuals.

The AFA letter went on to say "it will attack the major lies of militant gay activists head-on; alert viewers about what's at stake for the family if they get what they want; present helpful information to stop the radical homosexual political agenda.

Quickly the students and I set up a Facebook group entitled “Tell WOOD TV8 to Stop Hate!” and we sent an invitation to all our friends asking them to please contact WOOD TV8 to let them know this kind of irresponsible broadcasting is biased, unprofessional and leads to hate violence.

Melissa Pope, Director of Victim Services for Triangle Foundation – Michigan’s leading anti-violence organization serving the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities – states, “There is a direct connect between this kind of anti-gay programming and violence against the LGBT community.” It is especially important to acknowledge this potential risk considering hate violence against the gay community in Michigan increased 133% last year!

In a lightning fast response, WOOD TV8 pulled the programming for the evening and announced “Speechless” would be rescheduled later in the week. But we didn’t stop there.

We continued to work with hundreds of campus allies as well as eleven local, state, and national organizations to let WOOD TV8 know that we value the diversity, as well as the safety, of our community.

On Wednesday afternoon, after two reschedules of the program, WOOD TV8 rescinded their offer to air the show stating, “Our station is being bombarded with calls and messages, and we find ourselves in the middle of someone else’s fight.”

GVSU’s “Do Something Guide” states the following:

“Students also need to become active participants in making a difference outside of the classroom. Applying what you know to real life situations will help you better understand and educate others on the need for awareness and diversity.” (Fall 2008 p. 42)

The students of the LGBT Resource Center certainly put that into practice and received an electrifying education in the power of using their voices to address injustice and create change. The cancellation of the anti-gay infomercial “Speechless” by WOOD TV8 was a victory for fairness and safety. By the end of the week, our Facebook group had over 1,100 citizen activist members! Our grassroots effort received national media attention and changed the course of West Michigan history.

I encourage all of you to join us, whether LGBT or ally, as the LGBT Resource Center works to educate and develop student leaders who are empowered to create social change. Join our Facebook group “Friends of the GVSU LGBT Resource Center” to follow our work and become involved in the equality and justice community.

“When will justice ever come to Athens? Only when those who are not injured are just as indignant as those who are.” ~Thucydides

Fall Down Seven Times, Get Up Eight!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:24:00 +0000

Last week LGBT Resource Center Director Milt Ford and I were in Denver for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force’s Creating Change conference. This event was attended by over 2,300 activists from around the country who pursue equality and justice work on behalf of the gay community. This was my second Creating Change conference and no less life changing than last year’s event. The opening plenary for this conference always features the Executive Director (ED) of the Task Force delivering “The State of the Movement” address. This year new Task Force ED Rea Carey shared her perspectives.

Understanding the state of the movement is particularly important at this time in history. The November elections were politically significant for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender communities. The election of Barack Obama marked many firsts for our nation including the fact that his acceptance speech was the first of its kind to acknowledge the gay community. As leaders in the movement, we celebrate the election of an LGBT-friendly President who believes that the United States Constitution applies to ALL Americans.

There were other substantial victories that bright November day. Representing Colorado’s 2nd Congressional District, Jared Polis became the first openly gay candidate to run for the U.S. House of Representatives where he handily won victory! A new day also dawned in Michigan. Our citizens voted in record numbers and loudly rejected the divisive and discriminatory politics that have polarized this state. In an exhilarating rout, Barack Obama won Michigan with 57% of the popular vote changing the political landscape of our state! Additionally, a significant upset occurred when Judge Diane Marie Hathaway unseated Clifford Taylor on the Michigan Supreme Court! The impact of Judge Hathaway’s victory is immeasurable, considering Judge Taylor’s longstanding opposition to LGBT equality. Judge Hathaway’s election provides renewed hope for justice and equality in the LGBT community.

However, the losses were profound. Sadly, Hamtramck no longer has a comprehensive anti-discrimination policy. Additionally, equality suffered devastating blows in California, Florida, Arkansas, and Arizona.

In her “State of the Movement” address Rea Carey commented on these losses, “As we look back on this year, our confidence has been shaken and our anger has been roused — but now is the time to turn our anger into action and our action into long-lasting change. We must now refocus on regaining marriage equality in California and winning across the country. But we need to remember that these anti-marriage ballot measures are fundamentally about the larger right-wing assault on the ever-expanding diversity in the United States, our freedom to live openly and to create and define our sexuality, ourselves and our families. . . As the magnet on my grandmother's fridge says, ‘Fall down seven times, get up eight!’”

And so we brush ourselves off and renew our commitments. As we remember President-elect Obama’s acceptance speech and his acknowledgement of our community, we remain hopeful that this new President will bring the values of inclusion and equality to our broken nation and help us in the continuing journey on the road to equality.

GVSU -- Creating Social Change in West Michigan

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:16:00 +0000

Shortly after Ari came out and we were experiencing the consequences of misinformation and fear, I decided I wanted to work within the LGBT equality movement to help educate the greater community, dispell myths, and create safe spaces. The first place I looked was Grand Valley State University.

Since 1971, the University of Michigan has had an office dedicated to serving the needs of LGBT students and their allies. I was hopeful that when I checked out GVSU, I would find this same kind of resource. When I discovered Grand Valley did not have such an office, I felt overwhelmed with the work that needed to be done. Why, 35 years later, did our local institute of high education not keep pace with the largest university in the state? Little did I know all that had been going on at GVSU for the past ten years!

It wasn't until I was on the ground with Triangle Foundation in West Michigan that I had the opportunity to meet members of the GVSU staff and faculty to learn of the great work that the LGBT and allied community had been and was continuing to accomplish at Grand Valley.

This fall, Triangle Foundation recognized the work and vision of Grand Valley State University by honoring them with a Catalyst award for their equality and justice work on behalf of the LGBT community. I had the honor of presenting this award to GVSU at the Triangle Foundation State Dinner. I have included the text of my presentation below to share how the university has worked to create such immense cultural change. I am so honored to now be a part of this visionary community!

"Eight years ago, Grand Valley State University had the doors slammed in their faces regarding domestic partner benefits. Large private donors with high name recognition threatened to withdraw financial gifts unless the university closed the chapter/closed the book on this issue. It was a devastating blow to the many advocates for equality at GVSU, including Milt Ford and Kim Ranger, who had labored tirelessly for years around this issue.

This left the community in a powerless situation. In order to find their voice once again, the community came to the administration with something that would get their attention … money. Under the direction of Gary Van Harn, the faculty and staff developed the LGBT Scholarship Fund. This fund, which quickly became the fastest growing scholarship on campus, was the first time the term LGBT was published in university materials. Today that endowment has grown to over $82,000 and serves LGBT youth who, as a result of coming out, are asked to leave their homes and find themselves in need of housing and financial support to continue their studies. The LGBT community is now working with partners such as West Shore Aware to continue to build this emergency fund which provides for students in this transitional period. As a result of working with students who receive these necessary funds, the university has become increasingly sensitized to the special needs of their LGBT students including making special accommodations for transitioning transgender youth.

Grand Valley’s commitment to the LGBT community can be seen in their development of a new position – Vice President of Equity and Inclusion – as well as their Allies & Advocates program which trains approximately 75 faculty and staff per year on how to reach out to their LGBT students and advocate on their behalf. In an additional step forward, Grand Valley extended their anti-discrimination policy this year to include “gender identity and expression.”

The GVSU LGBT Faculty and Staff Association, under the direction of Neal Rogness, reopened the conversation about domestic partner benefits. Working with University President Tom Hass; Tom Butcher, University Legal Counsel; Scott Richardson, Director of Human Resources as well VP Equity and Inclusion Jean Arnold, this year Grand Valley State University opened that slammed door and began offering “household benefits” to the faculty and staff.

And finally, this week I attended the grand opening of the new LGBT Resource Center on the Grand Valley campus. This large office occupies a beautiful space and represents a dream that took many years of work and planning to come to fruition. Since this office opened its doors weeks ago, it has served over 300 students!

For the tireless work of three generations of LGBT activists on the Grand Valley campus, for the many strides forward for equality that have been created as a result of that work, and for the many lives that will be not only saved but also enriched and empowered, it is my great honor to present Grand Valley State University with the 2008 Triangle Foundation Catalyst Award!"

GVSU Adds Colette Beighley as Administrator of LGBT Resource Center

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 22:33:00 +0000

ALLENDALE TOWNSHIP -- After a gay student was spat on two years ago, Grand Valley State University administrators vowed to make gay, lesbian and transgender students feel welcome on campus.

This fall, the university opened its Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Resource Center where students, and those who want to support them, can spend time in an environment where they feel comfortable and safe.

Come January, the center also will have a full-time administrator to help coordinate its programs, which have touched about 2,000 people this year. "For many years, LGBT students have not felt that they were treated equally," said GVSU professor Milt Ford, the center's director.

He recently hired Colette Beighley to become its full-time presence. Read more.

Read entire Grand Rapids Press article

Read Muskegon Chronicle article

Colette Beighley to Leave Triangle Foundation

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 16:58:00 +0000

With bittersweet feelings, Triangle Foundation announces the resignation of our Director of Communications, Colette Beighley. Colette joined Triangle almost two years ago and was instrumental in the opening of the West Michigan field office. Her role then expanded to that of Director of Communications. Colette came to the attention of the Triangle Foundation when her 16-year-old son came out and the family made a decision to be a completely "out" family. Her son experienced some anti-gay abuse at school and Colette and the entire family was ready to support him.

"Colette is the kind of mom that the community needs. She's also active in PFLAG, and I'm glad she will remain active in the movement. We have an ally in West Michigan who will continue to spread the mission of anti-violence and equal rights," stated Alicia Skillman, Executive Director of Triangle Foundation.

Colette has accepted a position with Grand Valley State University as the Assistant Director of their new LGBT Resource Center. "Colette will be an immediate asset to the Resource Center. She will be missed at Triangle; however, we look forward to working with her in her new endeavor," stated Skillman.

"It has been my great honor to work for Triangle Foundation and with such an incredible staff. I look forward to continuing to work within the movement at Grand Valley -- an institution which constantly renews its commitment to equity and inclusion," said Colette Beighley.

Please take a moment to thank Colette for her service to our community. Help us to honor Colette's dedication to equality and justice by making a year-end gift to Triangle Foundation

today.

Kalamazoo Unanimously Passes Anti-Discrimination Ordinance

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 16:28:00 +0000

The city of Kalamazoo has stepped beyond existing state and federal laws, making it illegal to use sexual orientation to discriminate in housing, public accommodations and employment.

The Kalamazoo City Commission voted 7-0 Monday night to adopt an expanded anti-discrimination ordinance that makes it a municipal civil infraction to discriminate against gays, lesbians and transgender citizens.

The concept was brought to city leaders by the Kalamazoo Alliance for Equality and was modified by City Attorney Clyde Robinson to pattern similar language adopted by Ann Arbor and 15 other Michigan cities. Read entire story.

Hate Crimes Legislation Passes Michigan House!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 14:32:00 +0000

This morning Triangle Foundation Director of Victim Services, Melissa Pope, testified before the Michigan House Judiciary Committee to advocate for passage of the Michigan Anti-Bias Crime Statute (HB 6340 and 6341).

We are thrilled to report that this evening, the Michigan House of Representatives overwhelmingly passed this hate crimes legislation!

As a result of Triangle Foundation's 17 years of direct work with victims of anti-LGBT violence, our organization has seen the need for these kinds of protections, and we have advocated for hate crimes legislation for over ten years. This evening's passage is a huge victory for our community and for our state!

This legislation enables law enforcement and the judicial system to appropriately charge and prosecute offenders when their actions are aimed at creating a climate of fear and intolerance. Michigan ranks third in the nation for the highest number of hate crimes. With Triangle Foundation reporting a 133% increase in anti-LGBT crime in 2007, the need for this legislation is imperative to send the message that hate is not a Michigan value.

We thank our partners who joined with us to make this victory possible including the Michigan Department of Civil Rights, the ACLU of Michigan, and Michigan Equality.

Please help support our work as we support victims of anti-LGBT violence and work for policy change in Lansing by making a donation today.

Triangle Foundation is dedicated to promoting equality and securing freedom from violence, intimidation, and discrimination for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons throughout Michigan.

Michigan's Proposal 2 -- It's About Hope

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:08:00 +0000

Vote Yes on Proposition 2 and bring hope to many who suffer including my friend Julielyn Gibbons. Here Julielyn and her Mom share their story:

Groups supporting Proposition 2:
Alliance for Aging Research
ALS Michigan
American Association
American Civil Liberties Union
American Diabetes Association
American Federation of Teachers
Americans for Cures
B'nai B'rith International
Biotechnology Industry Organization
Californians for Cures
Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation
Coalition for the Advancement of Medical Research
Danny Heumann Foundation for Spinal Cord Research
Detroit Urban League
Hadassah
HIV/AIDS Alliance of Michigan
International Society of Stem Cell Research
Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, National and Michigan
Karmanos Cancer Institute
Michigan Environmental Council
Michigan Nurses Association
National Association of Social Workers, Michigan Chapter
National Multiple Sclerosis Society
National Organization of Women, Michigan Chapter
Parkinsons Action Network
Planned Parenthood Affiliates of Michigan
Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice
Research for Cures
Research!America
RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association
Student Society for Stem Cell Research
Students for Stem Cell Research
The Genetics Policy Institute
United Spinal Association

David Sedaris on Undecided Voters

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 16:54:00 +0000

David Sedaris writes about undecided voters in the current issue of the New Yorker:

"I look at these people and can’t quite believe that they exist. Are they professional actors? I wonder. Or are they simply laymen who want a lot of attention?

To put them in perspective, I think of being on an airplane. The flight attendant comes down the aisle with her food cart and, eventually, parks it beside my seat. “Can I interest you in the chicken?” she asks. “Or would you prefer the platter of shit with bits of broken glass in it?”

To be undecided in this election is to pause for a moment and then ask how the chicken is cooked."

Read entire article.

MARRIAGE VICTORY IN CONNECTICUT!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 19:31:00 +0000

October 10, 2008 -- Detroit, MI -- The Connecticut Supreme Court issued an opinion today overturning the state's ban on same-sex marriage. The justices voted 4-3, declaring that, according to Connecticut's state constitution, "same sex couples cannot be denied the freedom to marry."

This historic ruling will provide additional security and protections to the thousands of loving, committed same-sex couples and their children living in Connecticut. Marriage has meaning, both as a word and as an institution. Couples who have been together for years -- in many cases for decades -- will now have access to the dignity and respect that come with being legally married.

Connecticut becomes the third state, after Massachusetts and California, to provide marriage equality for its gay and lesbian citizens. "While Connecticut's civil union law provides many rights and protections for same-sex couples, the Supreme Court today recognized that which has always been true: 'separate but equal' is never equal," stated Bernadette Brown, the Director of Policy at Triangle Foundation. Brown continued, "It is unfortunate that loving, committed same-sex couples and their families in Michigan still live without these important protections."

It is the mission of Triangle Foundation to promote equality and to secure freedom from violence, intimidation, and discrimination for LGBT persons throughout Michigan.

Matthew Shepard: A Decade of Pain, A Call to Action

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:42:00 +0000

Guest Blogger: Melissa Pope, Director of Victim Services, Triangle Foundation

Ten years ago, the nation was stunned, shocked and horrified by the news that a young man, barely alive, was found tied to a fence in Laramie, Wyoming. We learned that this young man’s name was Matthew Shepard and that he had been beaten and left to die because he was gay. While the nation kept vigil, praying that Matthew would live, Matthew succumbed to his injuries and left this earth on October 12, 1998.

Having been actively involved with the social justice movement for several years, I was all too aware of the hatred that infests some in our society, spreading like a disease until the symptoms become fatal – for someone else. This infestation was painfully clear as the hate mongers stood outside the hospital praising the murder of Matthew as a testament to God. I remember tearfully asking my mother what was different now as compared to when lynchings were a part of American life. She replied with prophetic words, “Now, at least, we find it appalling.”

And so this became the quest of so many people and organizations – to make sure that we all found such heinous violence appalling and to oppose it with a message of tolerance. We have seen the formation of the Matthew Shepard Foundation which, through its work, has touched thousands of lives, spreading the message to erase hate. We have seen increased efforts by well-established organizations such as the Southern Poverty Law Center which itself has been the victim of a bombing motivated by hate. And there are statewide organizations, like Triangle Foundation, that provide direct services to victims of anti-lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender violence while working to change laws to protect all of America’s citizens. It is through my work at Triangle Foundation that my heart becomes the heaviest as I search for progress in the decade that has followed Matthew’s murder.

Despite the outrage expressed over and over again regarding Matthew’s murder, we have yet to see The Matthew Shepard Act signed into law. Most in America do not realize that it still is not a hate crime to brutalize a person because they are gay. In Michigan, we have yet to see the Ethnic Intimidation Act amended to include crimes motivated by bias against the gay community. We continue to see individuals attacked throughout the country because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Equally disturbing is the use of the gay panic defense. Put simply, the gay panic defense argues that the accused was so revolted by a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity that they were provoked to violence. This defense is often successful in that assailants are convicted of lesser offenses and receive lighter sentences. These cases are happening all over the country, including here in Michigan. On July 29, 2007, Steven Scarborough beat 62 year-old Victor Manious, placed him in the trunk of his car and left him to die. At trial, Scarborough used the gay panic defense. The fact that the jury found that an alleged sexual advance justified the beating to death of a 62-year-old man by a 21-year old man demonstrates how deeply rooted homophobia is in our American society.

Ten years later, we have yet to pronounce that hate is not an American value. It is far past time to build the foundation for tolerance in America. We must pass hate crime legislation that includes violence against another because of their real or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity or expression. Without the demand that tolerance and acceptance are American values, we will continue to see lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans brutalized. As we remember the murder of Matthew Shepard as well as many others who have been victims of hate, let us make a commitment to banish intolerance and embrace inclusivity so that we may live as a society of humanity where all people are truly created equal and valued as such. Let us come to a time when such violence is not only appalling, but absent from our society.

From the GLAAD Blog: Triangle Foundation’s Colette Beighley

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 02:01:00 +0000

From today's GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) blog:

Triangle Foundation’s Colette Beighley

October 2, 2008 -- In our work at GLAAD, we know the power that personal stories have to shape perceptions of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. Today we are privileged to have Colette Beighley, the new Director of Communications for the Triangle Foundation, answer some questions and share her story. The Triangle Foundation is Michigan’s oldest statewide LGBT organization. We’ve been lucky to work closely with Colette as we advocate for fair, accurate and inclusive media coverage across the state.

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Michigan’s LGBT community has seen you go from PFLAG mom to a full-time organizer for the Triangle Foundation, to now, Triangle Foundation’s Director of Communications. What inspired you to first become an advocate for the LGBT community and what has motivated you to take on these increased responsibilities?

Colette Beighley: There were several events that really propelled me into this work. Continue Reading.

Where the Wild Things Are ... Gay!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 01:18:00 +0000

Brilliant children's book author and illustrator Maurice Sendak (80) came out in this week in the New York Times.

"Was there anything he had never been asked? He paused for a few moments and answered, “Well, that I’m gay.” “I just didn’t think it was anybody’s business,” Mr. Sendak added. He lived with Eugene Glynn, a psychoanalyst, for 50 years before Dr. Glynn’s death in May 2007. He never told his parents: “All I wanted was to be straight so my parents could be happy. They never, never, never knew.” Children protect their parents, Mr. Sendak said."

Though Maurice Sendak is most well known for Where the Wild Things Are, my favorite book of his growing up was Little Bear's Friend. I read that story countless times and then read it to my children. The illustrations were so beautiful, you couldn't help fall in love with Little Bear.

Happy Birthday, Mr. Sendak! Thank you for continuing to share beautiful stories with us -- like your 50 year relationship with your partner, Eugene Glynn.

Familiar Face, New Role

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 20:53:00 +0000

Triangle Foundation Names Colette Beighley
as New Director of Communications

Triangle Foundation is pleased to announce that Colette Beighley has been named Director of Communications. Colette has been serving the organization for nearly two years as West Michigan Field Organizer. In that position, she helped established Triangle’s first field office in Grand Rapids and will continue to work out of our West Michigan office in her new role.

Triangle Foundation is proud to be able to bring a director-level position to Grand Rapids. This new appointment further demonstrates our work as a statewide organization and our commitment to West Michigan.

“It is an honor to serve the community and to work with this team of talented individuals. I look forward to both the new role and the new challenges that lie ahead,” said Colette Beighley.

“Triangle Foundation is proud of the work Colette has done in West Michigan. Her new position will further build and enhance the many relationships she has formed there. Colette will bring her unique and respectful style to our written and online communications helping us to bring our message forward, reach out to our constituents, and build bridges within our many communities,” said Kate Runyon, Interim Executive Director for Triangle Foundation.

The communities of West Michigan have responded to the new Grand Rapids office with strong financial support recognizing our work to promote equality for LGBT persons throughout Michigan. Join us by becoming a member today!

Triangle Foundation Applauds Spectrum Health Apology

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 13:31:00 +0000

Grand Rapids – Triangle Foundation applauds Spectrum Health’s response to the anti-gay discrimination Ashleigh Haberman and Erica Schaub received last month at Spectrum’s South Pavilion Urgent Care facility.

In a letter to the couple, Spectrum Health has issued an apology and an assurance that the behavior of the offending doctor “has been addressed and that appropriate actions have been taken.” “We were glad to hear Spectrum Health has taken this incident seriously. Our goal has always been to raise awareness within the healthcare system so that another couple will not have to experience what Ashleigh and I went through,” states Erica Schaub.

In meetings both with Triangle Foundation as well as with the City of Grand Rapids Community Relations Commission, Spectrum Health has reiterated its commitment to serving the needs of ALL families in our diverse Grand Rapids community and to specifically serving the needs of our gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender communities. Triangle Foundation remains available to partner with Spectrum Health by providing professional training to the staff and physicians. A medical staff informed about these issues helps fulfill Spectrum’s continued commitment to patient dignity.

Triangle Foundation challenges Spectrum Health to implement processes that assure Spectrum’s strong anti-discrimination policies are in place at every point of patient contact -- including the many medical professionals who are not directly employed by Spectrum but contract health care services for the hospital.

Triangle Foundation thanks the City of Grand Rapids Community Relations Commission for their attention to this case. One of the functions of the Community Relations Commission (CRC) is to investigate complaints of discrimination for the purpose of “insuring the fair and equitable treatment and availability of services to all Grand Rapids citizens, which enables them to be valued for their supreme worth.” The CRC reports directly to the Mayor and the City Commissioners.

It is the mission of Triangle Foundation to promote equality and to secure freedom from violence, intimidation and discrimination for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons throughout Michigan. Triangle Foundation takes healthcare discrimination very seriously. If you have been the victim of anti-LGBT discrimination by your healthcare provider, please contact Triangle Foundation at info@tri.org or 877-787-4264.

Now THIS is Love!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 23:57:00 +0000

Charles Honey, Religion Editor of the Grand Rapids Press, wrote a stunningly beautiful piece this past Saturday entitled "View of Gay Marriage Changes When it's Personal." I read it and cried.

What a beautiful gift Charlie gave this community! His response to his daughter is a magnificent example of how, even though life takes us down roads we might never imagine, unexpected turns can profoundly deepen our love for one another. Kudos to Charlie for his bravery in sharing the following story:

My favorite picture of my daughter, Emily, features her in full Beverly Sills mode.

She is standing by her Fisher-Price record player and happily singing along to a song from Walt Disney's "Cinderella," the book she holds in her hands like a Verdi score. Her head is held high, her chin tilted theatrically upward. She looks like she is singing an aria to thousands at Carnegie Hall, not in our living room singing to me.

That was Emily for you. Ask her to sing a song and she gladly complied, transporting herself to the stage in the process. While other girls her age were rocking to Madonna, Emily dreamed of being Shirley Jones.

Whether watching "Rainbow Brite" on TV, bouncing on the couch to the tune of "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" or immersing herself in a Berenstain Bears book, Emily sang and danced and read with a joy that seemed to come from someplace bright and beautiful.

My mom always said Emily dropped from heaven. Emily's mother, Wendy, and I felt she had wisdom beyond her years, as if she came into the world already knowing things.

But what Emily did not have, despite dear friends, was one particular friend, one person who cared more about her than about anyone else in the world. That was a person I very much wanted her to meet, because I did not want Emily to go through this hard world alone.

Finding that special one

Finally, she met that person. Her name is Nicole.

(To read the rest of the story, click here.)

Triangle Responds to Anti-Gay Discrimination at Spectrum Health

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 17:26:00 +0000

Instead of compassionate medical treatment, Ashleigh Haberman and Erica Schaub received a "lifestyle" lecture from a Spectrum Hospital physician.

The couple went to Spectrum Health South Pavilion Urgent Care Center in Grand Rapids for treatment of Schaub's lingering cold. According to a WOOD TV 8 report, the physician responded in an inappropriate manner asking who Haberman was to Schaub. Ashleigh Haberman and Erica Schaub have made a life-long commitment to each other and were married in Canada. When Schaub explained Haberman was her life partner, the lecture began.

The physician asked for the couple's opinion on the recent California Supreme Court marriage decision and "he proceeded to give his opinion on how he felt that marriage, gay marriage, shouldn't be called a marriage because it's a religious-based word, and he's a Christian, and there's no way that marriage could be considered legal in the gay sense," said Haberman.

"It is reprehensible that anyone would be subjected to religiously-motivated bias when trying to care for their health," said Melissa Pope, Director of Victim Services for Triangle Foundation. "The fear of receiving this kind of discrimination and harassment from medical professionals keeps members of the gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender community from receiving the comprehensive and compassionate medical attention that every human being deserves."

Spectrum released a statement that the matter is being investigated stating, "We have begun a thorough investigation of this matter. We will review all aspects of this issue. Once this is complete, we will take appropriate action." Triangle Foundation is calling for disciplinary action and an apology from the doctor and/or Spectrum Hospital.

Spectrum's anti-discrimination policy states:

"Spectrum Health has a zero tolerance policy regarding harassment for any discriminatory reason, such as sex, pregnancy, race, color, national origin, disability, age, religion, sexual orientation, marital status, height, weight or any other protected category. Such harassment is strictly prohibited ... Intent or lack of intent to harass is not the determining factor in deciding whether this policy has been violated. Appropriate corrective action will be taken against any individual who violates this policy." The City of Grand Rapids also has a non-discrimination ordinance that may prohibit this form of discrimination.

For the past seventeen years, Triangle Foundation has been serving members of the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender communities who have been victims of hate violence, discrimination, harrassment, and/or vandalism. For more information on our work, visit http://www.tri.org/.

Marriage Equality is Golden

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:01:00 +0000

Today at 5:01 p.m. PST, my beloved California will begin allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry and so another Gold Rush begins. Loving, committed couples will begin flocking to The Golden State bringing their rings of gold as well as the gold of an economic boost for the state hosting the weddings.

Meet my friends Bill Voetberg (left) and Tim Straayer (right). They will be celebrating their love and commitment to each other by marrying in California later this summer.

Bill, retired from AT&T, serves the City of Grand Rapids on the Community Relations Commission. Tim is a book editor. Both Tim and Bill are very active in the Grand Rapids Front Runners & Walkers. Additionally, Bill volunteers for Triangle Foundation.

I first met Bill about a year and half ago when he wrote a brilliant article for the Network News on current legislation impacting the LGBT community. After I read the article, I thought, "I have got to meet this guy!" We had lunch and have been friends since. Tim and Bill are downright good people -- smart, compassionate, insightful and a lot of fun. I'm so grateful to know them!

Bill was in a relationship with his partner Harold for over 31 years and cared for Harold until his death six years ago. Harold's family expressed their gratitude to Bill for this care taking and recognized that, without Bill, Harold would have had to have gone into a facility of some kind during his final days. Bill took responsibility for Harold's care because they were a loving, committed couple. After Harold's passing, Bill was unsure he would ever find love again. Enter Tim.

Tim came out later in life and soon thereafter met Bill. The rest is history. Bill and Tim have now been together for three years.

The first time I met Tim, I told him that I thought Bill was amazing -- "I'm kinda crushin' on Bill actually," I said. Tim replied, "Me too!" with a smile that lit up the room! I love these guys and I am so happy that they can express the love they feel and the responsibility they want to take for each other by making a commitment in marriage. (Did I mention this is taking place in CALIFORNIA!?)

So CONGRATULATIONS to two wonderful men! Stay tuned to my blog as I follow Bill and Tim's journey down the aisle.

The Pain of Enlightenment

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 21:08:00 +0000

Last night community members packed Wealthy Theater in Grand Rapids to view the film "For the Bible Tells Me So" which was followed by a panel discussion. Our panel members included

· Rev. Doug Van Doren, Plymouth Congregational United Church of Christ
· Mary DeRidder, PFLAG (Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
· Rev. Jim Lucas, Gays in Faith Together (GIFT)

This morning I received an email from one of my volunteers relating the following story:

“After the movie, there was an older man in the lobby crying because he was ashamed of his church and of his Christian friends and how they have treated members of the LGBT community. I was able to talk with him for a little while and gave him a couple of numbers and websites to check out. Needless to say, he walked away from the movie with some new convictions and support contacts.

He was feeling torn between his upbringing and church and his devotion/acceptance of a couple of his gay friends. He left feeling much more confident and secure about his friends and the LGBT community in general. What a wonderful thing Triangle Foundation, Wealthy Theater, and all involved gave to this elderly man!”

This is a wonderful story and exactly the reason we do the work we do! Speaking from experience, I can say that the price of enlightenment is often – as the gentleman last night experienced – PAIN.

After my son came out to me, I gave him a card and said to him,

“Your coming out IS a crisis for our family. But the crisis is not that you are gay. The crisis is that we have to ask ourselves why our lives have not been more supportive of the gay community and that is very painful.”

Taking a hard look at yourself is difficult stuff. We often don't like the reflection staring back at us from the mirror. But KUDOS to this gentleman and others who are willing to move from enjoying the comfort of opinion to doing the work of thought!

For the Bible Tells Me So

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 11:46:00 +0000

Join us this Wednesday at 7 p.m. at Wealthy Theater in Grand Rapids for the film "For the Bible Tells Me So." (Doors open at 6 p.m.)

Triangle Foundation will host a panel discussion following the film. Panel members include Rev. Jim Lucas, Gays in Faith Together (GIFT); Rev. Doug Van Doren, Plymouth Congregational United Church of Christ; and Mary DeRidder, PFLAG Holland/Lakeshore.

For more information on this event, click here or call 616-459-4788.

Pride 5K Benefits Triangle Foundation

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Tue, 27 May 2008 17:27:00 +0000

Start out Pride Month by joining us this Sunday, June 1st, at Riverside Park in Grand Rapids for the Grand Rapids Front Runners & Walkers Pride 5K Race.

Triangle Foundation's GenerationOUT Scholarship Fund is one of the beneficiaries of this event. Race starts promptly at 9 a.m. For more information or to register, click here.

From there, head to Motor City Pride in Ferndale -- Michigan's largest Pride celebration!

Motor City Pride -- June 1st!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Sun, 25 May 2008 13:33:00 +0000

Mark your calendars!

Gather your carpool buddies!

Next Sunday, June 1st

Downtown Ferndale will be transformed into the largest Pride event in Michigan and you won't want to miss it!

For list of events, click here. See you there!

VICTORY!

noreply@blogger.com (Colette Beighley) — Thu, 15 May 2008 21:17:00 +0000

Today the California Supreme Court has struck down the state’s ban on same-sex marriage as unconstitutional, paving the way for California to become the second state where gay and lesbian residents can marry.

In 2000, California passed the discriminatory “Defense of Marriage Act.” The court ruled that the state’s ban on same-sex marriage violates the “fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship.” The Justices ruled that the state’s “one man/one woman” marriage laws violate the civil rights of same-sex couples. (Twenty-seven states have passed discriminatory marriage amendments.)

The California marriage decision will affect over 36 million people – well over 10% of the nation’s total population – including more than 100,000 same-sex couples in California – one quarter of whom have children (according to the US Census).

In a 4-3 decision, drafted by Chief Justice Ronald George, the court stated: “In light of the fundamental nature of the substantive rights embodied in the right to marry — and their central importance to an individual’s opportunity to live a happy, meaningful, and satisfying life as a full member of society — the California Constitution properly must be interpreted to guarantee this basic civil right to all individuals and couples, without regard to their sexual orientation.”

The California Supreme Court ruled that domestic partnerships are not a substitute for marriage and that same sex couples should be permitted to marry. The court also noted: “Furthermore, in contrast to earlier times, our state now recognizes that an individual’s capacity to establish a loving and long-term committed relationship with another person and responsibly to care for and raise children does not depend upon the individual’s sexual orientation, and, more generally, that an individual’s sexual orientation — like a person’s race or gender — does not constitute a legitimate basis upon which to deny or withhold legal rights. We therefore conclude that in view of the substance and significance of the fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship, the California Constitution properly must be interpreted to guarantee this basic civil right to all Californians, whether gay or heterosexual, and to same-sex couples as well as to opposite-sex couples.” The court’s decision takes effect in 30 days.

California has a rich history of establishing fairness for all. In 1948, the California Supreme Court was the first court in the nation to overturn a state ban on interracial marriage. The California legislature has twice passed bills to allow marriage equality. Gov. Schwarzenegger vetoed both. Today the California Supreme Court Justices did their job to ensure all citizens equal treatment under the law.

City Attorney Dennis Herrera, who argued the case for San Francisco, stated “Today the California Supreme Court took a giant leap to ensure that everybody – not just the state of California, but throughout the country – will have equal treatment under the law.” Most Americans believe marriage equality will be a reality in their lifetimes. Two people in a committed, trusting and loving relationship deserve the dignity and support that come with marriage.

Sadly, here in Michigan, our Supreme Court took a different turn when faced with the opportunity to respect families. Just last week, the Michigan Supreme Court came to a decision that jeopardizes the health care of families in committed relationships. We look forward to the day when committed couples in Michigan have the same chance to legalize their relationships. Triangle Foundation will continue to work for fairness for all families in our state. We are inspired by California and look forward to the day when ALL citizens of Michigan will have the opportunity to realize their hopes and dreams by marrying the person they love.